There has been several crucial points in the past 30 years where I needed to make life altering decisions. Dropping my first semester of pharmacy school was one, getting married at a young age was another, and becoming a stay at home mom was maybe my most recent. But today I have another full plate of decisions to make, which include: should I continue to keep blogging at Mama of Three Boys, should I go back to work as a pharmacist, where should my family move, and where should I send my son to summer camp? Some may be big decisions, others not so much; but they all need wise discretion in making the RIGHT choice.
What steps do you need take to make the right decisions?
Here are some common responses I would give anyone looking for a somewhat easy answer.
1) Pray, Pray, Pray
2) Make a Pro vs Cons list
3) Write out the best and worst case scenarios
4) Seek counsel from your spouse, your parents, and praying friends
5) Think about long term and short term consequences
Easy enough? I typically apply all five steps in almost all of my decisions. But I realized that sometimes this easy answer is not always going to give you a confident answer.
I recently had a young person ask me, how did you know who to marry? And another one asked me how did you decide which pharmacy school to choose?
I answered these young people by giving them a few scriptures to think about. I realized then I could use these scriptures for myself to help me along my own journey of BIG decisions.Here are some questions along with scripture to use as a guide for your decision making. Click To Tweet
1) Have I given my indecisiveness, my problems over to the Lord?
Trust in the Lord with all your heart,
And lean not on your own understanding;
In all your ways acknowledge Him,
And He shall direct your paths. Proverbs 3:5-6 (NKJV)
2) What counsel does my praying friends have concerning this?
Where there is no counsel, the people fall;
But in the multitude of counselors there is safety. Proverbs 11:14 (NKJV)
3) Does this decision bring me peace?
Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7 (NKJV)
4) Am I making this decision in haste or prematurely?
Enthusiasm without knowledge is no good; haste makes mistakes. Proverbs 19:2 (NLT)
5)How will this decision effect me spiritually?
All things are lawful for me, but not all things are helpful; all things are lawful for me, but not all things edify. 1 Corinthians 10:23 (NKJV)
Ask yourself these five questions and start to meditate on these scriptures.
PRAY, PRAY, PRAY.
Learn to be still before the Lord. Ask Him for guidance. Formulate your own questions, and find scripture to help you answer those questions, (making sure to stay in context of the Word).
THEN MAKE YOUR LISTS: Pros vs Cons, Long and Short term consequences, and best and worst case scenarios.
Once you feel the PEACE that surpasses all understanding, you will know the Lord has given you an appropriate answer.
And for those of you wondering if I am going to continue blogging at Mama of Three Boys .com, the Lord gave me the answer, and it’s YES!