Dealing with Grief during the Holiday Season

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The holidays are finally here, and most of us are surrounded by our closest friends and family. But not all of us are that lucky.

This past week a woman from my town died suddenly while giving birth to her twins. I immediately thought about her husband, who in his joy, has to find time to grieve. Or vice versa.

I’ve encountered many experiences of grief during this particular time of year.
I’ve lost two friends while in college- one from a car accident, another from a hit and run.
They were too young to be taken away.

A few years back, my husband lost his dad due to cancer and since then the holidays were not the same as it once was.
Though grieving is for a season, the sense of loss of a loved one stays close to us, and the moments we shared with them never really fades away.

When someone you know is grieving what words of comfort do you say to them? If you are the one grieving, what helps you get through your grief?
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A reader recently told me, it’s always easy to say to someone, “Trust in the Lord” and “Be thankful for all that you have” and “God will get you through this;” but when you experience real grief none of those words help.

That got me thinking. Everyone deals with grief differently. Everyone takes their own time to grieve, and mourn.

I was at loss for words when my friends brother and mother died within weeks of each other. I did not want to just send her a fruit basket or a sympathy card. I wanted to give her something more tangible, and uplifting.

So I created a comforting playlist for her with contemporary Christian songs to listen to as she drove to and from work.

I know Gods word is the ultimate consolation but sometimes, lyrics and a tune is just what you need for a little reassurance. For many people, this year won’t be a holly jolly Christmas, and it might not be the best time of the year…

During the next one month, you are sure to be hearing Christmas songs in the office, at the mall, in your car- but if you want to have a change in tune, then here are 8 contemporary Christian songs, that will being you peace during this holiday season.

If you believe you just need some solid bible verses to dwell on during this time of grieving then here is a selection of 6 passages for you to meditate on.

You can choose one or the other or both to help you through this season.

These songs and verses have truly helped me get through the hard days, not just during the Holidays, but throughout the entire year!

Comforting Christian Songs (Title/Artist)

Cry out to Jesus-Third Day
Homesick- Mercy Me
I can only Imagine- Mercy Me
There will be a Day- Jeremy Camp
I will Rise- Chris Tomlin
Save a Place for me- Mathew West
Blessings- Laura Story
Where I belong- Building 429

Here is a bookmark for you to print out with my favorite scriptures to meditate on during a time of loss.

Scriptures for grieving

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  • Hannah Bowers November 23, 2016 at 11:26 am

    Beautiful! Just what I needed to hear and I plan on passing this along to my family. My husband lost his brother unexpectedly in October and I know that the holidays will be tough this year. Have a blessed Thanksgiving!

  • Christie November 23, 2016 at 11:28 am

    This is so relatable to me! I have recently lost my Mother-in-law who was living with us and it has been hard. Sometimes I wonder what I can do for him because I seem helpless. This is such a great idea and I know he would enjoy it. Thanks so much for sharing.

  • VAlerie November 23, 2016 at 12:23 pm

    What a sweet way to comfort friends. The song “Homesick” always makes me think of my Father-in-Law and Mother-In-Law who both died suddenly two years apart from eachother. I think music is so comforting for those who grieve.

  • Rebecca November 23, 2016 at 2:01 pm

    These are some of my favorites. Music has a way to minister to us when the pain is too raw to speak. What a beautiful gift to give to someone, Sue.

  • Beth November 24, 2016 at 3:27 am

    What a beautiful and touching post. I love these songs. Next time I hear them I will think of this post and pray for all those grieving. God Bless, and thank you for this. Now I need to go and get some tissues for my eyes!

  • Lori Schumaker November 27, 2016 at 11:12 pm

    Hi Sue,
    This is a great collection of songs that bring hope during this difficult time. Thank you so much for sharing this at #MomentsofHope! I appreciate you!
    Blessings and smiles,

  • Crystal December 6, 2016 at 8:18 am

    Sue, I think this is a time where so many of us think about those dear who are no longer with us. And many times God sends just the right song to minister to our hearts and draw us close beneath His wings for comfort and healing. What a wonderful and thoughtful post!

  • Melissa November 22, 2017 at 11:48 am

    Sue, these are such great songs and scriptures to share with others. The book, “I wasn’t ready to say Goodbye” by Brook Noel and Pamela D. Blair, PhD is an amazing book for healing after the sudden death of a loved one. Your bookmark would be a beautiful addition.

  • Stephanie Liller November 22, 2017 at 11:50 am

    Visting from By His Grace Bloggers! This article is so beautiful and I know each year I always miss my grandfather. So many great memories. This post and the verses you gave us are comforting reminders that we need. Thank you and Blessings to you!

  • Melissa @ Think About Such Things November 22, 2017 at 12:21 pm

    Thank you for sharing this. My dad passed away 5 days ago and tomorrow is Thanksgiving and then my birthday. Just a hard time for me. I know he’s with the Lord but it’s still hard.

    • Sue November 22, 2017 at 8:39 pm

      I am sorry to hear about your recent loss. I pray you stay strong in the Lord dear sister.

  • Sheila Qualls November 23, 2017 at 12:24 pm

    Great songs. It is so painful to think of loss during the holidays. The holidays stir bad memories and trigger depression in some people. Prayers for all who are dealing with loss this holiday season. Thanks for providing a safe place for people to share their grief.

  • Peggy Medberry November 24, 2017 at 5:59 pm

    A lovely piece. Music can be a great comforter! Blessings to you!

  • Susan Evans November 29, 2017 at 4:29 pm

    What encouraging Scriptures and songs! I will have to look up the songs I haven’t heard yet, to comfort my heart.

  • Katie December 1, 2017 at 3:07 pm

    What a lovely gift, Sue. My father in law died the week before Christmas last year. We were just looking at photos of the holidays past and they brought some tears. Both of my husband’s parents are with Jesus, and that’s difficult for us, but we know that their celebration with the Lord has never been better!


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