Nine Biblical ways to Keep your Marriage Sweet

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There are many blog posts out there that give you tips on how to “spice up” your marriage, but this is not one of them. From becoming more spontaneous, to taking a vacation together, these tips are great ways to rekindle the fire that your marriage once had. Today I want to look at some biblical strategies to strengthen and “sweeten” your marriage. Making small changes in our attitude, our gestures, our emotions can make a big impact in our married life. I don’t want you to think this Mama of Three Boys has it all together, because I don’t! But dwelling in God’s word really taught me how to become a better spouse. So let’s see how we can work on it together!

  1. Exhibit Joy.  No husband want to come home to a unhappy wife, who is mad all the time, and upset at circumstances that he has no control over, and of course vice-versa. James 1:2 says count it all joy when you fall into various trials. Ask the lord to provide that joy in your heart so you may radiate it in your home. Let the Joy of the Lord be your strength.
  2. Live at peace with each other. If you are living in an environment of unrest, hostility, or chaos, pray for the peace that surpasses understanding. Scripture says to seek peace and pursue it, you must make every effort to live in peace with your spouse.
  3. Demonstrate patience. Stay steadfast “despite opposition, difficulty, or adversity.” “Keep calm and carry on” without complaining. Learn to endure what is given to you.
  4. Respond with Kindness. Be attentive to your spouse’s need. Be considerate to his wants. Check your tone of voice, do not respond or treat your spouse in a rude manner.
  5. Portray Goodness. Let your life reflect Christ. Just like He is holy you too be holy. Walk blameless and upright in your marriage.
  6. Be devoted to Faithfulness: Be firm in your commitment to your spouse. Remember and repeat your vows. Be loyal and sincere to your husband.
  7. Clothe yourself with Gentleness: Gentle does not mean weak! Jesus himself said  “I am gentle and humble in heart.” Be compassionate towards your husband, and show humility.
  8. Do not lack self-control: Say “No” to ungodliness and worldly passions, strive to live upright and godly lives though temptations may present in various forms.
  9. Love unconditionally. Can we love without limitations? Read 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8, Unconditional love is patient and kind. It is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.(paraphrase NLT)

How about that? Can we sweeten our marriage through these 9 steps?

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Read Galatians 5:22-23 But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.(NKJV)

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Ask the spirit to guide you, strengthen you, and give you wisdom to display these fruits in your marriage so it may become more sweet!

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  • Michele Morin January 23, 2017 at 7:41 am

    Love these “fruitful” reminders that strong marriages don’t just happen by accident. Something we’re doing that I love is reading through the Bible together. It’s a challenge to stay caught up, but then, the reward is we get to be together as we read!

    • Sue January 23, 2017 at 11:07 pm

      Yes, we enjoy reading Gods word together too. unfortunately its hard with the three boys, but we are trying to find couple quiet time again.

  • Angela Howard January 23, 2017 at 9:10 pm

    I’m so glad you added gentleness. Simple but powerful. Visiting from #searchingformoments today.

  • Sue January 23, 2017 at 11:08 pm

    thank you for visiting! Yes gentleness is a great fruit to bear!

  • Sherry January 25, 2017 at 12:24 pm

    I like that you address attitude instead of “spicey” suggestions. It all starts with us choosing to be like Christ. Great post!

  • Stacy January 25, 2017 at 1:15 pm

    Best marriage advice I’ve seen in a while. 🙂

  • Meredith January 27, 2017 at 1:22 pm

    What a good list! I love the Biblical focus and that you really look at the heart of what we do, which is so much more important than the activities we can do together. (These certainly take more work though!)

  • Kira January 27, 2017 at 6:15 pm

    I love this post! Practical, biblical advice is always the best kind of advice.

  • Lauren C. Moye January 27, 2017 at 7:49 pm

    Great application of the fruits of the Spirit. We remember to extend grace to each other when we’re having bad moments, but we also remember (in our bad moments like a rough day with the child or horrible work day) not to take our frustrations out on each other. It works out great, although I imagine it might look odd to strangers if they could glimpse through the walls of our home:

    “I feel like I’m being snippy with you and I don’t want to be.”
    “I can tell you’re frustrated, but I don’t think you’re being snippy at all.”

  • Lori Schumaker January 28, 2017 at 8:08 am

    Great tips, Sue! Sound, tried, and TRUE! Thanks so much for sharing hope alongside me at #MomentsofHope!
    Blessings and smiles,

  • Marisa Boonstra January 30, 2017 at 10:03 am

    These are great tips that I absolutely needed to read! I’ve been guilty of not exhibiting joy, and talking a lot about things my husband has no control over. I always thought it was just me “sharing my feelings” and that he should be supportive. I didn’t realize how much I was actually complaining. Loving unconditionally is another one I really need to work on. It’s so easy to display when it comes to my kids, but I need to extend that same love to my hubby also!

  • Crystal January 31, 2017 at 1:23 pm

    This is beautiful…I especially have found that being clothed in gentleness is so much more effective.

  • Abi January 31, 2017 at 9:53 pm

    Marriage is an excellent place to apply practicing the fruit of the Spirit. Only by God’s grace can two sinners treat each other this way!

  • Donna Reidland February 1, 2017 at 6:06 pm

    The things you listed, while “simple,” aren’t always the easy way or what we “feel like,” but when we do them faithfully (not perfectly), it makes all the difference! Thanks for the reminders!

  • Ayanna February 7, 2017 at 6:48 pm

    These are great tips we could all use. I know I have been working on my patience and kind responses.

  • Susan Arico February 9, 2017 at 1:26 pm

    Great to see all of the fruits of the Spirit applied to marriage. Thanks!

  • Brenda February 9, 2017 at 4:53 pm

    That’s a great list, Sue. Everything always seems to come back to those fruits of the Spirit, doesn’t it? Thanks for sharing with #ChasingCommunity today, great to connect. ((graces))

  • Sarah Geringer February 11, 2017 at 6:37 pm

    I’m writing my next ebook about the fruits of the spirit. Your post inspires me! Your linkup neighbor at #chasingcommunity this week.

  • Marianne February 26, 2017 at 12:54 am

    So submissive, I’m ok with The beyng good and doing good, but never will I be submissive

  • Nicole Kauffman April 6, 2017 at 8:19 pm

    I LOVE this!! I’m always looking for those practical ways to be a loving and Godly wife. This is exactly what I needed today! 🙂

  • adelaide July 23, 2017 at 8:30 am

    please could you elaborate no.8? especially what you mean by worldly passions. thank you.

    • Sue July 23, 2017 at 11:19 pm

      Do not love the world nor the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh and the lust of the eyes and the boastful pride of life, is not from the Father, but is from the world. The world is passing away, and also its lusts; but the one who does the will of God lives forever. (1 John 2:15-17)

  • Val October 24, 2017 at 2:14 pm

    Very helpful. If practice one can have a happier and a less friction marriage. Thank you so much.

    • Sue October 24, 2017 at 2:47 pm

      Yes Val… I agree- we must try our best to practice it. Thanks for visiting!


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