How to have an acceptable conversation according to biblical standards

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I recently started using emoticons in my text messages. I can tell an entire story now by just using 5-6 emoticons in one sentence. I am fascinated that this is the form of communication young people are having these days. I am not surprised that even moms are using emojis with their kids, and husbands and wives are sharing their entire day by using just a few emoticons to tell their story.

We aren’t using our mouths much to speak these days, are we? Instead we are using our fingertips to type out our thoughts, and we can easily backspace or delete what we just typed out so we don’t really hurt one another’s feelings.

BUT WHAT ABOUT ALL CAPITAL LETTERS (no I’m not screaming), and unintentional auto texts that can change an entire conversation around?

I might be considered old school, but I still find comfort in talking one on one with family and friends who can share touching experiences, respond from their heart, and give genuine answers over one of these –> . (And if you want to yell at me, then please do so in front of me.)

As Christians, we have the responsibility to monitor all of our conversations and speech. Whether it be via email, by text message, in public or in private, the bible has several requirements on how to compose our conversations and tame our tongue.

We are reminded in scripture that “Death and life are in the power of the tongue” (Proverbs 18:21). James 1:26 says “If you claim to be religious but don’t control your tongue, you are fooling yourself, and your religion is worthless.” So if anyone “desires to love life and see good days, let him keep his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking deceit.” (1 Peter 3:10)

We are also given instruction on the content of our conversations through many of the letters written to the early churches. Here are 5 verses(ESV) to think about when you are conversing with your spouse, your children, your best friend, and even co-workers.

Colossians 4:6  Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.

Ephesians 4:29 Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.

Ephesians 5:4  Let there be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking, which are out of place, but instead let there be thanksgiving.

James 1:19 – Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to peak, slow to wrath.

James 5:12 But above all, my brothers, do not swear, either by heaven or by earth or by any other oath, but let your “yes” be yes and your “no” be no, so that you may not fall under condemnation.

Do you strive to keep your conversations holy, sweet, and acceptable? Do you seek to build each other up, and always use grace? Is your heart and mouths overflowing with thanksgiving?
Do you strive to keep your conversations holy, sweet, and acceptable? Click To Tweet If you struggle with your conversations: pray as David prayed in Psalm 141: 3 “Set a guard, O LORD, over my mouth; Keep watch over the door of my lips.” If we were to change Psalms 19:14 around to this day and age, it would say something like this: Let the words of my mouth, and the emails I type out, and the text messages I send, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O LORD, my strength, and my redeemer.

Let us be more intentional in the conversations we have from now on. Let our words be as “Pleasant as honeycomb, Sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.” (Proverbs 16:24)

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I am a pharmacist turned stay at home mom of three boys under the age of 5. I hope to use holy scripture, lyrics, and words of encouragement to uplift moms in all stages of motherhood. I am taking this journey of writing to find spiritual balance and joy while raising my three boys!


  • Anne | onedeterminedlife May 17, 2017 at 3:00 pm

    I prefer talking to people face to face because I find that you can read into emails and texts but when you look into someone’s eyes, you can tell what their intent is. Thanks for the reminder to watch what we say and write.

    • Just a Mom from Ohio May 17, 2017 at 9:30 pm

      I agree. It takes restraint for me to not read into something that was texted or emailed. I am learning to not take everything so personally. However, lately I find myself using text so much simply because of the kids noise in the background. They don’t appreciate or understand my lack of attention on them.

  • Valerie May 17, 2017 at 5:43 pm

    I agree, Sue. It’s so easy to let careless words fly out of our mouth or type out a thoughtless text. This is a great reminder to keep our words sweet.

  • Sarah {Happy + Healthy Taste Buds} May 20, 2017 at 3:57 pm

    Really enjoyed these thoughts, Sue! And appreciated the way you introduced your topic with a little critical thought about emojis & texting haha! 😉 Thanks for sharing.


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