7 ways to Honor God and your Family by limiting Social Media

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I am blessed to have Dani Munoz from Free Indeed guest post for me this week. She shares seven practical tips on how to limit screen time (most of which I too should be following.)

Sitting in the backseat, my mind lost itself in scrolling through every social media feed. Next to me my baby cheerfully giggled over her car seat toys, while I mused over beautiful Instagram photos and intriguing Pinterest articles.

“…And that was the point. Wait, are you even listening?” said my husband.

I wasn’t. Shame suddenly burned inside me. This moment had happened before, too many times. Instead of initiating conversation with my husband, let alone contributing to it, I had secluded myself in the bubbling world wide web.

“Are you on your phone again?” Hastily shoving it into my purse, I apologized to him with grief in my heart. Not again, Lord. This has to change! 

 Instead of treasuring moments with my husband and baby, whether out and about or at home, it was becoming second nature for me to be glued to a screen.

Later that day, I remembered the words of Paul:

“All things are lawful,” but not all things are helpful. “All things are lawful,” but not all things build up.  Let no one seek his own good, but the good of his neighbor.” 1 Corinthians 10:32

Paul was encouraging the Corinthians to be mindful of how their actions impact others, to the glory of God.

I realized my phone was hindering my ability to honor my family, and in turn God. Could it be the same for you?

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In Christ, we have complete freedom (John 8:36). He has freed us from the power of sin, and we are free by His grace, not our works. However, though we have liberty in Jesus, not everything honors Christ and obeys His teaching.

If we put anything in place of Him, even something as simple as a phone, we can be back in bondage. Good things, like using the computer, can go sour when it leads to disobeying God’s will.

The Great Commandment challenges us to love God with all of who we are, and the second one to love our neighbors as ourselves (Matthew 22:37-38). It’s difficult to fully love our Lord and family when our attention and interest are elsewhere.

I share this, because in our technological day and age, excessive screen time is a habit many of us have to break. God’s calling for us to serve our families is so much higher, grander, and meaningful than the temporary intrigues of the digital community.

I decided that with God’s strength, I should be more intentional in enjoying God and my family by cutting screen time, especially when it’s so tempting as a blogger.

God has written in His Word to: “Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth.” Colossians 3:2

The reality is serving our family is eternal work. While online communities have their blessings and benefits, they tend to focus on earthly pleasures. We honor God when we keep our priorities in order.

In putting down our phones more often, we are:

Experiencing more precious memories with family, rather than missing them.

Showing our husband care and respect, when we have time with him.

Becoming engaged listeners, rather than half-hearted ones.

Leaving a stronger godly legacy as wives and moms, not disconnected ones.

Setting an example of active and attentive love for our kids, not one of distractedness.

Making the best use of our time, instead of giving it to temporary things. 

Are you catching yourself on the phone, laptop, or even watching TV too often?

Here are 7 ways to Honor God and your Family by limiting social media and technology:
  1. No social media checking before reading the Bible and/or breakfast.
  2. Only getting on technology during naptime and after their bedtime to maximize moments with the kids.
  3. Deleting especially distracting or tempting apps.
  4. Setting daily or weekly social media check points to help control when you’re online.
  5. Every time you open your phone to an addicting app, close it and open up the Bible app instead.
  6. Replace screen time with outdoor time.
  7. Make dinner a “no phone zone” so all family members can interact.

My hope in sharing this is not to condemn using technology, but to encourage us to be thoughtful in stewarding our time and to love our families well. May we love our God and families with full and devoted hearts!

 

 

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21 Responses

  1. This was really convicting! Thanks for the advice. 🙂 Our church is currently doing a sermon series on honoring God with technology and reconnecting with our families by reducing the amount of time we spend on devices. My family and I had some good discussions about the topic yesterday afternoon, and agreed to make certain times and places in our home “tech free zones”.

    • That is so neat your church is doing that! Technology use needs to be talked about more within the church, because it can affect family life so deeply. Also very cool that your family has decided on tech free time together! Good idea! 🙂

  2. It’s so true, whilst social media has benefits we really do need to be careful to not allow us to dominate us, it can be so addicting. I like your advice on not checking social media first thing in the morning before breakfast! Many thanks.

    • Yes, I almost included a similar verse by Paul in 1 Corinthians 6:12 where he says “I will not be dominated by anything.” We can’t let our phones dominate us! And you’re welcome, that idea has been particularly helpful for me. 🙂

  3. After some soul searching, I’ve begun making it a habit to only be on social media during the times my children are sleeping, napping.. or occupied with a movie. Lol. Otherwise, I want my attention to be on them. It so much more important to me that I am present in their lives than “in the know” with everyone else’s lives. These are great tips for keeping your relationship with God, your husband, and family in check.

    • Well said! Our kids should have our full attention so we can love, disciple, and teach them well. Thank you for reading!

  4. I only have specific hours during the day where I will do computer and phone time. Still trying to convince my boys that my computer time is my “working time”. 🙂

    • Hahah working from home is such a fine balance to figure out! My baby girl’s pretty young but I hope she doesn’t think the computer is all I do.

  5. Even when my company for most of the day is my 18mo, my introvert tendencies still kick in sometimes. When that happens, I have to physically place the phone up out of sight so that I’ll stay engaged.

    • I feel ya! And good idea – I can forget my phone if I leave it out of sight – which is a good thing (as long as I have the ringer on if someone does call hahah). When my daughter is playing it’s also tempting to just take advantage of the “peace” and get on my phone, when I could instead engage with her or read.

  6. I love how you said serving our family is eternal work and what we occupy ourselves with on our phones usually focuses on earthly pleasures. That definitely helps put things into perspective. Do I want to spend my little time on Earth engaging in more things that matter for the Kingdom, or on social media? Makes it sound like a no-brainer when it’s said like that!

    • Yes , having an eternal perspective is so key – it helps us make decisions to honor God! Thank you for reading, Lauren!

  7. I’m guilty of this and I take an active role in putting down the device/getting off the computer and to interact with family and friends. Thank you Dani (and Sue) for this well needed reminder.

  8. Sophy George

    Great Post

  9. This was so good, wise and practical, ladies! It can dominate and we don’t even realize it!

  10. Before I surrendered to Christ, I was a phone addict in the worst way. I had two young daughters who were cared for physically but not emotionally because I was on my phone from when I awoke to when I went to bed. I lost my girls a couple of years ago, and when I look back, I wish I had taken them swimming or to the park. Even just sitting down having an ice cream cone with them or coloring and reading would’ve been better than them getting half-hearted answers to their innocent questions. But now they’re gone, and I’d give anything for another opportunity to spend everyday with them. Never take time with your children and families for granted. Great post ❤❤

    • Ladonna, I am so sorry for your loss. It is difficult to look back at our life before Christ, especially when we see how our sinful choices affected the ones we love. Despite the pain of these regrets, we can cling to Christ’s grace and be at peace through His forgiveness. Praise Him for opening our eyes to this modern struggle of using technology well, may we continue to grow in this area and treasure each day He gives us! Thank you for reading, God Bless sister.

      • Thank you LaDona for sharing from your experience. I’m sorry you lost precious moments with your little ones by prioritizing your phone. Your comment opened my eyes as well, to be even more intentional with the time I spend with my three boys. You truly spoke to me today.

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