3 Benefits you Gain by Praying for Your Marriage

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I am so thrilled to have Nicole from Courage.Hope.Love blog write a guest post for me. I have been dedicating more time to praying for my own marriage, and I’m glad Nicole is sharing with us the benefits we gain personally and as a couple when we uplift our marriage to the Lord.

Praying for your marriage

As a newlywed, I had no idea the power and strength that comes from praying specifically and strategically for my marriage. Sure, every once in awhile, I’d offer up a request or something I was grateful for. But committing to praying for my marriage was foreign to me. Instead I fumbled through the disappointments, expectations and misunderstandings on a whim. 

And I quickly grew exhausted.

After all, marriage wasn’t what I expected and no matter how hard I tried, I never seemed to measure up.

Satan was working. And I knew little of one of the most powerful protectors of my heart and my marriage.

It wasn’t until I got to the end of my rope that I started asking God for answers.

What could I do to find peace?

How could I surrender my expectations?

Where could I discover strength?

“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.” -Matthew 7:7

Suddenly, I was bombarded with powerful books on prayer. I soaked it all in and started changing my approach.

I began praying strategically and fervently for my marriage.

And I saw a drastic change.

When you spend dedicated time in prayer for your marriage, you will discover 3 major benefits.

  1. Aligns your heart with Scripture

Prayer transforms you first. We can be so swayed by our desires. Naturally, we think about ourselves first and what will benefit us or work to keep us safe. But if we are seeking to grow closer to the Lord and strengthen our marriage, we must make sure that our desires are aligned with God.

When you surrender your heart each day to the Lord, you will begin to long for His ways.

Through constant prayer, you can discover what God’s will is for you and how to live in a way that He calls you to. Prayer will open your eyes to any of your desires that may not align with God’s and it will literally transform your heart to long for the same things that God wants for you.

Satan has to flee in the presence of the Lord. When we use God’s word as a weapon, we will see the effects of Satan’s influence fade out of our marriage.

Prayer offers the benefit of aligning your heart with Scripture and God’s will. When you do this, you will find peace and strength to keep going.

  1. Strengthens you in your role

Prayer will help you to grow stronger in your specific role in your marriage.

Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. -Ephesians 5:22

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her -Ephesians 5:25

Submission is extremely powerful when approached correctly.

So many people skew the intention that God has for us as wives and because of this, so many wives resist this idea. But submission is important in a healthy marriage.

Wives are to submit to their husbands as the church submits to Christ. Isn’t that a beautiful picture? Think of all that Christ did for the church. He died for her. And in that beautiful picture of sacrifice and love, the church submits to Christ.

Husbands are to love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.

These two calls perfectly complement each other.

In a loving marriage, the husband loves the wife by putting her before his needs and serving her by sacrificing himself (mostly played out in smaller day to day things). And simultaneously the wife, in trust, fully submits to the husband’s leading, knowing that he loves her and cares for her. These two work together in harmony.

As you pray, you will do your part to grow into your role in marriage. And you can pray for your spouse to find the strength to take on their role.

  1. Allows you to fight for your spouse and your marriage

It is so important to fight for your spouse and for your marriage. So often I get caught up in fighting with my husband that I forget who the real enemy is.

For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. -Ephesians 6:12

Your battle is not with your spouse.

Did you catch that? Your battle is with the invisible enemy that wants to drive a wedge into your marriage. Satan wants to break up the unity and love that God intends for your marriage.

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So instead of fighting with your spouse, take time to fight for them in prayer. As you do this, you will see that your attitude and heart are changing as well.

Prayer is a powerful weapon that we can use to stand strong in our marriages. When you dedicate time to praying strategically and specifically for your marriage, you will see these benefits start to take root.

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Meet Nicole

Nicole Kauffman is a wife, blogger and passionate follower of Christ. Her blog Courage. Hope. Love. was founded to encourage, inspire and guide Christians to deeper hope and joy in the Lord. Nicole lives in Pennsylvania with her amazing, God-seeking husband and family. She is an aspiring author who loves to grow relationships, mentor, and explore the beauty of God’s creation all around.

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  • Edie July 31, 2017 at 8:20 am

    I know I need to pray more for my husband and my marriage. Satan is attacking homes and marriages left and right. Thank you for this powerful reminder!

    • Nicole Kauffman August 1, 2017 at 8:11 am

      I need this reminder daily, Edie! Satan is definitely at work. Thanks for stopping by 🙂

  • Lorin Martinez July 31, 2017 at 2:57 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing this!

    “Your battle is not with your spouse. Did you catch that? Your battle is with the invisible enemy that wants to drive a wedge into your marriage. Satan wants to break up the unity and love that God intends for your marriage.” This is so true.

    My husband and I were separated for 3 years until being reunited this past April. What a journey it has been. I do not have all the answers but now going through what I did I can see that God can use my story to benefit those who listen. I definitely found this article helpful and will be applying it.

    Continue ladies to share what God has blessed you with to help other women who are in need of hearing the truth.

    • Nicole Kauffman August 1, 2017 at 8:11 am

      I’m so glad that God is working in your marriage and that you are striving to use your story for His glory! Thank you for your kind words, Lorin!

  • Lauren C. Moye August 1, 2017 at 11:54 am

    Nicole! This is an excellent post. Recently my husband and I started praying both for each other, our relationship, and our relationships with others. While I’ve never considered us to have a bad relationship, it’s amazing how I can feel our minds and hearts re-align with each other the more we practice our new habit.

    • Nicole Kauffman August 3, 2017 at 8:51 pm

      Yes! Making it a consistent thing has transformed my marriage! Thanks, Lauren!

  • Natalie August 1, 2017 at 4:22 pm

    Praying for your marriage is the BEST thing you can do for it to flourish. This post is a great reminder of why we need to be praying for our relationships with our spouses. This Sunday my husband and I will celebrate 29 years of marriage, and I can guarantee our faith is what has kept our marriage together.

    • Nicole Kauffman August 3, 2017 at 8:51 pm

      Congratulations, Natalie!! Thanks for sharing 🙂

  • Rosanna@ExtraordinaryEverydayMom August 2, 2017 at 7:58 am

    Prayer is definitely a powerful weapon in marriage! I know that I go through times when I pray a lot and at other times it drops off a bit. That has been what has happened lately. Thanks for the reminder to get back at it again!

    • Nicole Kauffman August 3, 2017 at 8:52 pm

      Yes, we do go through ups and downs, but I’m glad you found the encouragement to keep going, Rosanna!

  • Jennifer DeFrates/Heaven Not Harvard August 2, 2017 at 10:35 am

    Nothing has ever made more of a difference than praying for my spouse. It changed my heart towards him and has made changes in him. God works in us in many ways and prayer opens the doors.

  • Shannon Geurin August 2, 2017 at 1:29 pm

    It’s certain that prayer changes things! It’s our most powerful weapon. I can’t imagine not praying for my husband! Thank you for this inspiring article!!

    • Nicole Kauffman August 3, 2017 at 8:52 pm

      Great picture, Shannon! It really is a powerful weapon 🙂

  • Alexis August 2, 2017 at 1:54 pm

    Thanks for the reminder that our husband is not the enemy, Satan is! Satan began to attack my marriage shortly after saying my vows! He didn’t wait! Prayer is what turned this around. It changed me first, then it changed my husband. We’re in a better place because of praying for each other and together!

    • Nicole Kauffman August 3, 2017 at 8:53 pm

      I’m so glad to hear of the power of prayer in your marriage, Alexis! Thanks for sharing!

  • Angela August 2, 2017 at 3:39 pm

    Amen! We need to be warriors for our marriages – God’s word is our sword and prayer is our conduit to the support and protection from God. Thank you for sharing this!

    • Nicole Kauffman August 3, 2017 at 8:53 pm

      I love that, Angela – warriors for our marriages! Thanks for stopping by!

  • Leslie August 3, 2017 at 1:22 pm

    Yes! Prayer works and changes a marriage from the inside out. Thank you, Nicole, for sharing. It’s especially good to remember that our spouse is not our enemy.

    • Nicole Kauffman August 3, 2017 at 8:54 pm

      Thanks, Leslie! It is so important to remember that God often works from the inside out, great insight! 🙂

  • Dani | Free Indeed August 3, 2017 at 1:46 pm

    “So instead of fighting with your spouse, take time to fight for them in prayer.” Exactly! Prayer is so powerful in healing a marriage and protecting it.

    • Nicole Kauffman August 3, 2017 at 8:54 pm

      Yes, we need healing, but we also need to remember to pray for protection when things are going well! Thanks so much, Dani!

  • Elizabeth August 7, 2017 at 6:10 am

    Nicole and Sue, thank you so much for this! It’s so important. I’ve found it more of a challenge after having more children – sometimes it seems more obvious to me that I need to pray for them, but of course interceding for my husband is the privilege God gave me first of all.

  • Jen E. August 8, 2017 at 9:51 am

    I love that you spoke about how the idea of marriage has become skewed! I totally agree, the world has taken the role of a wife and trashed it. So much that women are angered by what it means to be a wife based on the Biblical outline. The laid out picture of what a marriage is supposed to look like is actually beautiful and graceful. Thank you so much for sharing this post. Great encouragement to pray for our marriage and even our own expectations.

  • Aimee Imbeau August 10, 2017 at 6:15 pm

    Great post, Nicole! Praying over our marriages is absolutely essential! I’ve chosen to feature your post on Grace and Truth this week. Stop by tomorrow to get the “I was featured” button for your post.

    • Sue August 10, 2017 at 6:33 pm

      How lovely! Thank you so much Aimee! And thank you Nicole for a wonderful topic! May it continue to bless many!

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  • Emily Wood August 11, 2017 at 11:54 am

    This article is such a great reminder of the importance of prayer in our marriage. I love how you shared that by praying, it changes OUR hearts. That is so true! Thank you for this post!


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