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I am so thrilled to have Nicole from Courage.Hope.Love blog write a guest post for me. I have been dedicating more time to praying for my own marriage, and I’m glad Nicole is sharing with us the benefits we gain personally and as a couple when we uplift our marriage to the Lord.
As a newlywed, I had no idea the power and strength that comes from praying specifically and strategically for my marriage. Sure, every once in awhile, I’d offer up a request or something I was grateful for. But committing to praying for my marriage was foreign to me. Instead I fumbled through the disappointments, expectations and misunderstandings on a whim.
And I quickly grew exhausted.
After all, marriage wasn’t what I expected and no matter how hard I tried, I never seemed to measure up.
Satan was working. And I knew little of one of the most powerful protectors of my heart and my marriage.
It wasn’t until I got to the end of my rope that I started asking God for answers.
What could I do to find peace?
How could I surrender my expectations?
Where could I discover strength?
“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.” -Matthew 7:7
Suddenly, I was bombarded with powerful books on prayer. I soaked it all in and started changing my approach.
I began praying strategically and fervently for my marriage.
And I saw a drastic change.
When you spend dedicated time in prayer for your marriage, you will discover 3 major benefits.
Aligns your heart with Scripture
Prayer transforms you first. We can be so swayed by our desires. Naturally, we think about ourselves first and what will benefit us or work to keep us safe. But if we are seeking to grow closer to the Lord and strengthen our marriage, we must make sure that our desires are aligned with God.
When you surrender your heart each day to the Lord, you will begin to long for His ways.
Through constant prayer, you can discover what God’s will is for you and how to live in a way that He calls you to. Prayer will open your eyes to any of your desires that may not align with God’s and it will literally transform your heart to long for the same things that God wants for you.
Satan has to flee in the presence of the Lord. When we use God’s word as a weapon, we will see the effects of Satan’s influence fade out of our marriage.
Prayer offers the benefit of aligning your heart with Scripture and God’s will. When you do this, you will find peace and strength to keep going.
Strengthens you in your role
Prayer will help you to grow stronger in your specific role in your marriage.
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. -Ephesians 5:22
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her -Ephesians 5:25
Submission is extremely powerful when approached correctly.
So many people skew the intention that God has for us as wives and because of this, so many wives resist this idea. But submission is important in a healthy marriage.
Wives are to submit to their husbands as the church submits to Christ. Isn’t that a beautiful picture? Think of all that Christ did for the church. He died for her. And in that beautiful picture of sacrifice and love, the church submits to Christ.
Husbands are to love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.
These two calls perfectly complement each other.
In a loving marriage, the husband loves the wife by putting her before his needs and serving her by sacrificing himself (mostly played out in smaller day to day things). And simultaneously the wife, in trust, fully submits to the husband’s leading, knowing that he loves her and cares for her. These two work together in harmony.
As you pray, you will do your part to grow into your role in marriage. And you can pray for your spouse to find the strength to take on their role.
Allows you to fight for your spouse and your marriage
It is so important to fight for your spouse and for your marriage. So often I get caught up in fighting with my husband that I forget who the real enemy is.
For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. -Ephesians 6:12
Your battle is not with your spouse.
Did you catch that? Your battle is with the invisible enemy that wants to drive a wedge into your marriage. Satan wants to break up the unity and love that God intends for your marriage.Satan wants to break up the unity and love that God intends for your marriage. Click To Tweet
So instead of fighting with your spouse, take time to fight for them in prayer. As you do this, you will see that your attitude and heart are changing as well.
Prayer is a powerful weapon that we can use to stand strong in our marriages. When you dedicate time to praying strategically and specifically for your marriage, you will see these benefits start to take root.
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Nicole Kauffman is a wife, blogger and passionate follower of Christ. Her blog Courage. Hope. Love. was founded to encourage, inspire and guide Christians to deeper hope and joy in the Lord. Nicole lives in Pennsylvania with her amazing, God-seeking husband and family. She is an aspiring author who loves to grow relationships, mentor, and explore the beauty of God’s creation all around.
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